This commentary was originally published on Craigslist, 7/17/16, and then published in yahoonewsreview 3/12/17.
Why is it important to identify psychos?
I had an experience at a Starbucks Sunday, July 17, 2016.
Not a big deal, really, but enough to get me thinking.
You have to pick your fights. A wise man never picks a fight he will lose. sometimes a fight is forced upon you.
If you are in unknown territory or domain, think twice.
This day, I walked in and decided to set my laptop down on a chair close to the counter, so I could keep my eye on it, instead of getting coffee first and sitting.
There were high tables and nice cushy armchairs, but I preferred to sit at the table with chairs more suited to eating and typing on the keyboard.
There was a guy sitting at the table, by himself. There are seven chairs at this table and he took up two.
I placed my laptop at the other end on the other side of the table and the dude looked up and stated, with a tone of anger, the table was reserved.
I wanted to sit there. I noticed there was no evidence of anyone else there, so I wondered right away if he was telling the truth. I asked, “you can reserve seats at this place?” He replied, “these are reserved.” I reserved the whole table”.
I said, “I don’t see a reserved sign.” With increased anxiety in his voice he replied, “Well it’s reserved.”
I did not catch the guy’s name but he was wearing a University of Utah shirt with “AIRMED” across the back and a helicopter.
How nice, what a nice man, he works in healthcare.
I set my laptop at one of the high tables, right across from him. I don’t think he noticed.
He was friendly with staff, another fellow he was obviously familiar with, and sat and did his work.
At this point, I am tempted to refrain from referring to him as a him, or person. Psychos are sub-human because they live by animal instinct and “fight or flight” responses. This dude was obviously poorly self-controlled in some situations.
I thought, almost immediately, that I was dealing with a psycho. This is how they operate. Smooth with the words, but be careful you do not cross a monster like this.
How often do we find ourselves in a situation that could escalate?
This dude clearly misunderstood priority of principles. This dude clearly lacked understanding of the things normal people know about: hierarchy of offenses.
This guy lied. Right up front, right in the open, knowing full well he was lying and cared not.
Our brief conversation almost qualifies as a verbal confrontation, but I did not need it and there were other tables. His third comment that the table was reserved was met with my chuckle. He said, quite succinctly, “Don’t mock me.”
I was prepared, if I decided to set my laptop down, for that shit-stain to come at me.
Are you prepared for this kind of confrontation because this is what happens often.
People that are assaulted, robbed, or have questionably valuable items stolen often wonder why, or what provoked an attack.
Always be prepared. Kick a chair in front of an attacker, but do not stand idly by and wonder if a liar: a guy that is angry for no apparent reason, will hurt you. IT IS IRREFUTABLE THAT YOU ARE BEING PHYSICALLY ATTACKED.
How often do psychos attack and injure, and get away with it? All the time.
Here was this asshole lying to my face and worried he was being mocked. Is that a bit of a confusing prioritizing of offenses. That is a clue to his psyche. This asshole was taking up a whole table, seven seats, with no regards for others This guy was potentially starting something with his contentious demeanor and words, and he worried about being mocked. His thoughts were anywhere except where they should have been: that this might escalate because of himself, and the limited thoughts he entertained were about being mocked.
He appeared to be normal. He was friendly with staff who did not know he was chasing clients from seats.
I wonder if Starbucks knows this asshole chases others from “his” table.,
I looked around and decided I was not going to challenge any further. If there were no other seats I would have ignored him and set myself down.
After an hour and a half, not a soul showed up. No texts, no calls. He kept the whole table to himself, occupying three seats only. I don’t even know if he did or if he would have chased others away. None tried to sit there. The place just did not get busy.
Why is it important to know who is psycho and who is not?
Every day we contact and converse with anti-social personalities. We don’t know what irrationality pervades in their minds at any given moment, but they always reveal themselves as socially retarded when put under stress.
The stress need not be much, just an emotional contradiction to them, is enough to reveal they have no empathy.
Empathy is one of three characteristics that set mankind above all the beasts.Empathy is the ability to expand feelings to understand others, and feel their pain or suffering, joy or happiness. Empathy just so happens to be important when one does not feel for others, and decides to hit or attack.
This is what you can count on from psychos.The anti-social personality has no empathy and cannot feel the pain he or she will inflict on others. The psycho has almost no control over his or her desires to hit or attack.
This state of existence arrives by no mistake. All psychos make themselves into uncaring, unfeeling predators.
Some anti-social personality disorders have chemical imbalances. Some have brutal childhoods. Some have other excuses but one factor pervades. They all decide to suppress their conscience so they can take advantage of others. It is their decision to be what they become. It is hard to detect because it is unseen and nobody can tell when a person decides to discard empathy.
One thing is irrefutable. All psychos exploit and use others. This connection is something scientists often miss. It is a desire on the part of psychology, human behavioral scientists to not point fingers or blame. It is political correctness, but even the dopey scientists, when assaulted by a psycho, get angry and want justice. Too bad. The behaviorists, some, contributed to the lawlessness themselves, and reap that which they sow.
Unfortunately, others reap what the behaviorists sow.